Category: Marriage

Total : 371 Results

Question ID 2074 Friday 14th of November 2014

Question:

Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatallahi wa Barakatu عظم الله أجركم I have been married for one year. When the aqid took place, a written Islamic marriage contract was not constructed. It was verbally agreed that my mahr would be hajj and a Holy Quran. My husband and I would like to have a written marriage contract made and signed by both parties to have in the future. Is this permissible? Also, can any changes or additions be made to the Islamic marriage contract with the written consent of both husband and wife after the aqid has taken place? I was looking for a sample Shia marriage contract, and I found one which stipulated that amendments or supplications may be made with the written consent of both husband and wife to be bound thereby. We both follow Sayyed Al-Sistani. Thank you very much for your time and guidance, Wa Salam

Answer:

Salamun Alaykum wer wb
The person who recited the Aqd of marriage for you should be able to give
you a certificate of marriage. If you are unable to get it from him, you
may contact WABIL office 0208 4598475 for assistance.
Both husband and wife can add what ever they both agree to add on the
agreement.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 2073 Friday 14th of November 2014

Question:

As salam un alaikum, I am a married man with one small child. I am working in african continent. My wife is not with me, she is in our home land. My wife has major issues with physical relations with me, due to her mood swings. From beginning it hs been almost the same. She knows this and has granted me permission for permanent or temporary marriage at her own will. Recently I met a young girl, who is a muslim, unmarried, but she is not a virgin due to the culture shebwas brought up in. She is giving me indications to get involved with her. I have 2 queries: A. I do not want any illegal relation. Can I offer this girl to do Mutah with me. B. Do I or she have to seek permission of her father as she is a non virgin. I follow A.Sistani. Kindly advice Jazakallah

Answer:

Mut'ah marriage with her is allowed and as she is non virgin, she can
decide herself and does not need her father's permission.
Wassalam
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 2053 Sunday 9th of November 2014

Question:

asalamalaikum oral sex is allowed with wife

Answer:

Husband and wife are allowed to enjoy themselves between themselves
including oral sex, but they must avoid swallowing Najis items like semen
or blood.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

Question ID 2046 Friday 7th of November 2014

Question:

I love someone ,want to get married , so I ask him to married via skype . He only take swear that he accept doing nikkah with me as wife ALLAH witness 3 times . Now is my nikkah valid .

Answer:

Not valid at all before proper Nikah is recited mentioning the Mahr.
Witness is recommended.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 2044 Friday 7th of November 2014

Question:

salam. i have done mutah temporary marriage with a sunni girl for 1 year.her father & paternal grand father has passed away.so she has given me permission for everything to do with her in sense of sex.my Question are.1)can she suck my penis by her mouth & than spittle out side my semen/sperm not swallowing? 2)can i suck her naked breast/her nipples? 3)can i rub my penis between her buttocks to release my semens? 4)can i have masterbation with her hands? 5)can i finger her vagina? 6)can i french kiss her lips? 7)can i do phone sex with her & release my semens without touching my own hands on my penis?plz email me inbox.thank U.

Answer:

If her father and paternal grand father are not alive, she can decide whom
she wants to marry , whether temporary or permanent marriage. When she is
your wife, you both are allowed to enjoy between yourselves in all things
mentioned in your questions.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi



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Question ID 2040 Wednesday 5th of November 2014

Question:

salaam u alaykum i need some help and advice, i feel that it is now wajib for me to get married, i have tried not eating to make my desire less but still i have to eat at some point and this doesnt last for long, i end up falling into sin, i have tried looking for a wife, but due to my age and circumstances its seeming very hard, i have also looked for mutah but cannot find anyone, and im reaching a point where i dont want to live much longer if i keep falling into sin which always ends up happening, what can i do ?

Answer:

If you know that if you do not get married, you will fall in sinful acts,
you must then get married. Marriage is not difficult if you keep trying and
make it simple marriage with out extra expenses. Keep trying to get married
and seek help from Allah (SWT). You may request good people who know you to
help.
There is no question of committing sinful acts even if you not married.
Remember that sinful acts lead to hell-fire which can not be tolerated.
Till you get married, keep on fasting, as fasting makes your urge less.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi


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Question ID 2038 Tuesday 4th of November 2014

Question:

Asalamualaikum i want to marry a single shia muslim man from Lebanon and i am a sunni lady from Malaysia,we agreed to do mutaah marraige, please tell is it a must for us to be nikah by any recognised iman because we decide to do it in Kuwait.

Answer:

You can perform Mut'ah marriage between you if you know the Arabic
pronunciation properly, other wise you may seek help from any Shia Shiakh
in Kuwait where you can find hundreds of Shias who can help.
Witness is recommended but not must.
If you are a virgin, you need your father's permission or approval.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi


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Question ID 2031 Sunday 2nd of November 2014

Question:

Is anal sex is allowed in islam?

Answer:

Anal sex is very bad and should not be done by descent man. It is totally
prohibited when the wife is in her menstrual cycle period.
If the wife demands anal sex, it remains disliked act, but she should not
be in her menstrual period.
Wassalam
Mohammad al-Musawi

Question ID 2002 Thursday 16th of October 2014

Question:

My friend 25 years of age, was a working woman(but her parents were not dependent on her income).She lived with her father and mother.One day suddenly her parents got to know that she had married a Hindu boy, without their consent.She said that it was a nikah after he became muslim.The marriage was disclosed after a year.Is this marriage haram or halal.Now she has left her home and is living with that man.

Answer:

If the man has become a Muslim before the marriage and still a Muslim, then
Nikah is valid according to many Ulama.
If the man was not a Muslim before the marriage, then it is not Nikah but
fornication and she must leave that man immediately.
Wassalam
Mohammad Al-Musawi

Question ID 1968 Thursday 2nd of October 2014

Question:

As Salamun aleykum WrWB, Is it islamic to wash the feet of the bride on the wedding night and sprinkle in house for barakah. If so please provide reference. As I have heard this without any authentic source. Secondly after Nikah is it better for the groom to see bride first thsn anyone else. If there is any supoorting hadith please attach. Thank you very much. May allah reward you. Wasalam

Answer:

There is a Hadeeth is Makarim Al-Akhlaq by Al-Tabrasi , page 323, from the
Prophet (SAWA) telling Imam Ali (AS) : When the bride enters your house ,
remove her shoes when she sits and wash her feet.
- غسل رجلي العروس
فقد ورد أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه واله أوصى علياً عليه السلام قائلاً له:
"يا علي، إذا دخلت العروس بيتك، فاخلع خفيها حين تجلس، واغسل رجليها"6.
It is also recommended to sprinkle the water in the house
The Hadeeth states: and pour water from your door till end of your house,

Faqeeh by Shaikh al-Sadooq, vol 3 page 551

صب الماء في الدار
في الرواية السابقة يتابع رسول الله صلى الله عليه واله وصيته للإمام علي عليه
السلام : ".. وصبًّ الماء من باب دارك إلى أقصى دارك؛ فإنك إذا فعلت ذلك أخرج
الله من بيتك سبعين ألف لون من الفقر، وادخل فيها سبعين ألف لون من البركة،
وأنزل عليه سبعين رحمة ترفرف على رأس العروس حتى تنال بركتها كلُّ زاوية في
بيتك.." 7.

6- الطبرسي، الحسن بن الفضل، مكارم الأخلاق، ص 323.
7- الصدوق، محمد بن علي، من لا يحضره الفقيه، ج3، ص551.

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Mohammad al-Musawi

Question ID 1957 Tuesday 30th of September 2014

Question:

As-salamu alaykum, Brother Mai Mumbai ka rahne wala hu aur mera sawal yeh hai ke "Mere Abbu ke saage chacha ki ladki hai jo mujse 2 din choti hai age ke liyaz se aur mere abbu chahte hai ki meri aur unke chacha ki ladki ki shadi ho magar masla yeh hai ki woh mere ek rishte se phuphu lagti hai" Kya Islam ijazat deta hai inn rishto me shadi hone ki please aap iska jawab mujhe E-mail se hi send kare aur please jitni zayda jankari se send kare toh acha hai.

Answer:

Please make your question more clear so that I can reply accordingly iA.


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Question ID 1941 Wednesday 24th of September 2014

Question:

Assalamo alaikum wa rahmatullah, Sayyadna can a shia(syed) marry a Sikh girl. Can we see isteqara for marrying a Sikh girl. Can we make muta with Sikh girl. Please do reply as soon as possible, Jazakallah Khair

Answer:

Q1. can a shia(syed) marry a Sikh girl.
A1. Muslim man is not permitted to marry non Muslim girl.

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A2. No value for such Istikhara because it is for non permissible act.

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A3. No , it is not permissible in Islam to do Mut'a but only with Muslim
female oe from Ahl al Kitab. Sikh are not from Ahl al Kitab.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 1940 Wednesday 24th of September 2014

Question:

Salam Alaikum, Q1. please inform after Nikah how long a wife and husband can live away from each other. can they remain separate for 2 years. ? due to some unavaoidable circumstances they cannot live together.

Answer:

Nikah remains valid even they are away from each other any period of
time for unavoidable circumstances.
Divorce either from the husband or from Haakim Sharia is the only reason of
invalidating the Nikah as far as both are Muslims.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 1925 Tuesday 16th of September 2014

Question:

If a syed girl can marry a non syed boy then why is it not allowed for a shia sunni to marry? Has allah not permitted it? Even if both respect each others faith and have no intention of converting each other. The girl stays shia and the boy stays a sunni. If allah has not permitted it in quran or hadith the person is willing to not consider marriage. Even if the boy respects shia thoughts and the ahlulbait(as).

Answer:

Marriage which can lead to weakening or harming the true faith or
proper religious practice is not allowed.
Wasslam.
Mohammad al-Misawi

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Question ID 1923 Tuesday 16th of September 2014

Question:

Salam my question is regarding the marriage of a syed shia girl with a non syed sunni boy. I need to know if it is islamically possible for these two people to be married. I have heard that couples like this are cursed by Allah and they never stay happy. Is this true? Also the nikkah i have been told is haram? If the boy is a good muslim and is decent prays and everything why is it looked down upon and something haram in the pakistani shia community? If it is allowed i need proof or evidence to show the parents to convince them.

Answer:

Marriage between persons of different faiths , which can cause harm to your
faith, is not allowed according to most of our Ulama.
Man who does not follow Ahlul Bayt (AS) can influence his children to be
like him and even his wife can be effected, that is why such marriage is
not always welcome or accepted.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 1921 Monday 15th of September 2014

Question:

Assalamualaikum Meri Ek Sehli Hai Jo Sunni Syed Gharane Se Hai or usko rishta Dawoodi Bohre Ladke Ka Aaya kia vo rishta karna sahi hai ??

Answer:

Both are Muslims and marriage between Muslim man and Muslim woman is
allowed but marriage should not cause harm to real faith in the Prophet
(SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS).
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 1908 Monday 8th of September 2014

Question:

my husband married his cousin months after marrying me due to pressure from his parents, his cousin was not aware that he was already married and that i was pregnant at the time of their marriage. my conditions to let my husband marry his cousin to keep his parents happy was that he would not have any physical relationship with her and not call her to the UK but he would support her financially. he agreed to this. but when he returned from getting married i had a feeling that he did have physical relations with her, and accused him of it, he neither confirmed nor denied it, but let me believe for 8 years that he did. but after 8 years he finally decides to tell me that he has never touched her, in this time she no longer lives with his parents and has been living with her parents for the last 3 years and he has not been supporting her financially. my question is if he is telling the truth and not consummated the marriage then is this nikah even valid? and if my condition to allow the second marriage was that he didnt have physical relations with her but he has, then what position does that leave me in? as he has broken the terms of the conditions.

Answer:

Her Nikah is valid even with out sexual relationship. Your condition on
your husband is obligatory on him but has nothing to do with your marriage
whether he fulfilled it or not.
Wassalam
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 1907 Saturday 6th of September 2014

Question:

Salam is anal sex during wife, s period halal or haram?

Answer:

Absolutely Haraam.


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Question ID 1906 Saturday 6th of September 2014

Question:

Assalam alaikum my question is that is anal intercourse during wife, speriod halal or haram

Answer:

Absolutely Haraam .


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Question ID 1823 Thursday 7th of August 2014

Question:

asalamunalykum, Unfortunately i m in a relationship with a girl and now I m thinking to do mutha with her to avoid gunha but our perents are not allowing to do so. can we still do mutha hidding from them our any other way that I can become mehram to her plzz suggest? khuda hafiz

Answer:

If she is a virgin girl, she needs permission from her father or her
paternal grand father for any type of marriage. This is the Fatwa of most
of the Ulama including Ayatullah Sistani.
Some Ulama say that if she finds no way to save herself from sin, she might
be allowed to do Mut'ah but with no sexual intercourse.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

Question ID 1821 Wednesday 6th of August 2014

Question:

asalamunalykum can I do mutha with a vurgin girl if our pernts are not allowing to do so and we are falling in a major sin day b day taqlid aga e sadeq rohani

Answer:

عقد الرجل على البکر الرشيدة بدون أذن أبيها صحيح لا إشکال فيه مطلقا
The above answer is from the site of Ayatullah Sayyed Sadiq Rohani. His
fatwa is allowing the marriage if the virgin girl is mature enough. Many
Ulama say that Mut'ah in this case should not include sexual intercourse.
Wassalam
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 1817 Tuesday 5th of August 2014

Question:

Asalam unalaikum syed musavi, I am 16 yr old boy. I want to marry and atleast do mutah to save myself from sins. I have asked my mother but she dosent allow me and dosent understand my problem. So can i do mutah marriage without fathers permission?? I read that mature boys have the right to marry without pemission. I also cannot control my desires and do my best to stay away from sins. What is your advice. I follow ayatullah sistani.

Answer:

You as a man do not need permission of your father in your marriage, but
try your best to keep the respect of your parents and never hurt their
feelings.
Keep fasting as much as you can, because fasting helps controlling sexual
desire.
Remember the great reward in the Paradise for those who control their
desires for the sake of Allah.
Keep on repeating Salaat and Estighfaar.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 1780 Sunday 27th of July 2014

Question:

Salaam Sayd, Please help me so that I do not fall into sin. I entered a muta marriage with a christian woman. Before we read the marriage formula I asked whether she was single and she said yes. Later I found out she is still seeing her old boyfriend. So she lied to me. They are not married. But i think they are in boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. I do not know whether they have had intercourse or not after I entered the muta marriage with her. is my marriage to her void or is it ok? walsalam

Answer:

Valid.



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Question ID 1776 Saturday 26th of July 2014

Question:

Ref to qn id 1669: if a wife does reach orgasm due to her husband and both are unaware of the ruling and initially did not mean to reach climax, what are consequences in terms of the fast, qadha and kaffara.

Answer:

=E2=80=8BIf they did not have the intention of reaching climax, they may ke=
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Qadha, but there is no Kaffara.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi=E2=80=8B

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Question ID 1752 Wednesday 23rd of July 2014

Question:

Salaam, If one enters a muta marriage with a woman and later finds out she was lying about not being in relationship with another man. 1) Is this muta marriage valid? 2) If they have not had intercourse yet can he leave her without paying the mahr (dowry)? 3) now he knows she is still with the other man can he still be in the muta marriage or does he have to stop it. wasalam

Answer:

If he discovers that she is currently married to some one else, any type of
marriage, or she is passing a waiting period ( IDDAH), then the Mut'ah
marriage is immediately invalid, and there is no dowry on him for her. He
will not be allowed to have any relationship with her, and if he
deliberately does that, it will be a major sin, and she will become
permanently Haraam for him.
Wassalam
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 1680 Tuesday 15th of July 2014

Question:

Salam When should the mahr(dowry) be given in a muta marriage? Can if be given at anytime or does it have to be given at the saying of marriage formula or at the end when the period ends? wasalam.

Answer:

Mahr of any marriage being permant or temporary is the right of the wife
and she has the right to take it when ever she wants. She can take it
immediately if she wants, and she can postpone it if she wishes .
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 1669 Monday 14th of July 2014

Question:

as salaam alekum Q-1:-i want to ask that in ramdan in roza can I sleep with my wife and kiss her lips and cheks and others parts,and press her body parts, but i am control myself that i will not liquid during this? Q-2:- In ramzan and having myself roza,can I satisfy my wife during roza with fingure?

Answer:

> Q-1:-i want to ask that in ramdan in roza can I sleep with my wif=
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ut
> i am control myself that i will not liquid during this?
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=E2=80=8BA1. Yes it is allowed if you are sure that you will not ejaculate,=
because
deliberate ejaculation spoils the fast and you will be committing a sin of
breaking your fast.=E2=80=8B

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and you
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=E2=80=8BAny enjoyments with out penetration less =E2=80=8Bthan orgasm is a=
llowed.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 1664 Monday 14th of July 2014

Question:

Salam, i am a man whom follows ayatullah sayed sistani, i want to marry (Mutah) a virgin girl whom follows ayatullah sayed Sadeq Rohani, he says that the balegh virgin girl does not need her parents/walis permission in order to get married in a mutah marriage, can i proceed with this without her parents permission as her taqleed says it is not obligatory. wasalaam.

Answer:

No you can not, because you need to follow your own Marja' of Taqleed.
In any case, no sexual intercourse will be allowed even according to the
Ulama who say that it can be allowed with out her father's consent.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi




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Question ID 1649 Thursday 10th of July 2014

Question:

Asak, I have a question as I have been married for past 8 years My husband does not have sexual relationship n takes care of me ,I have to earn my own expenses.can I indulge into mutha ah marriage with another Shia man as I also have desires,instead of committing adultery please advise me

Answer:

You are a married woman and you are not allowed to have any relationship
with any man but your husband. There is no Mut'ah possible with any man
because Mut'ah is a type of marriage and you are already married. If your
husband does not fulfill his duties towards you, you may seek help from
wise persons who may talk to your husband. You also have a right to seek
help from religious authority ( Haakim of Shariat who is Marje of Taqleed
or his deputy).
If your husband insists on denying your rights, you have the right of
seeking divorce through religious authority. After divorce and passing the
Iddah, you will be then allowed to re marry or to have Mut'ah with another
man.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 1646 Thursday 10th of July 2014

Question:

Salaam alaikum. My question is, when must a wife obey her husband? When is it compulsory for her to do so? I have heard that it is only waajib to obey her husband regarding leaving the house without permission and fulfilling his sexual desires unless she has an excuse, and apart from this it is not waajib to obey any other orders. But we read so many Hadith which seem to suggest that she should obey for all halal things in general, like the following: "Imam al-Baqir (p) says that once a lady inquired from the Holy Prophet (p) regarding the rights a husband enjoys over his wife. He (p) said, ‘First and foremost is that she should obey him and refrain from disobedience….’” (Makaremul Akhlaq) “Imam as-Sadiq (p) stated: 'Any woman who bothers her husband and distresses him is distant from the blessings of Allah and any woman who respects her husband, is obedient and does not cause him sorrow, is blessed and prosperous'." (Bihar al-Anwar, vol 103, p 253) And there are other Hadith which are even more strict which you know much better than I do. So is it waajib before Allah (swt) that she should obey her husband for simple day-to-day matters? I understand that she is not compelled to do the household chores, but apart from this, does she have to obey him regarding general everyday things? Or is it true she is only required to obey her husband regarding leaving the the house and fulfilling his sexual desires, and no other order or request is waajib on her to perform? Thank you, was salaam.

Answer:

Wife must obey her husband in any matter which is related to him or to
their family life, provided he does not order her to do any unlawful act.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

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