| Question ID 512 - Family issues |
| As salaam un alaikum,
One of our married sister has a few problems in her married life as follows:
1. He is full of male ego and does not treat his wife well. Her husband is very demanding and is very unsupportive towards his wife and 2 children who are below age 3. Even if he wants a glass of water and the wife is busy, he will nag her to get her water, this is in all the cases, once back from office he is front of the TV till he sleeps, and keeps on ordering and get irritated and taunts if there is a delay.
If the children are crying very much, then he does take them, and hates if the small child spills saliva on his clothes, at night too the same scenario, yes but at times he does support her wife.
2. They have 2 children of the same gender and he forcfully planned the second one with not enough gap between the two, now he wants a 3rd child and is hinting it to her wife, who is not at all in the mental, physical and spiritual state for another one, does the female have right to deny this to her dominating husband.
3. Before marriage he said he will allow hijab to her and after that he restricted to a dupatta on head only. No scarf as well. What does the female do and what do you suggest, as hijab is wajib. But he is very dominating and treats her very very badly if she does not listen to him in any case.
4. He keeps contact with his parents and sister, but not enough.
5. He takes care of all the financial needs, but is very selfish and self centered. Is there any dua, aamal, fasting anything which can make him treat his wife, his parents and sisters the way islam does.
THE GOOD THING ABOUT THIS PERSON IS, HE IS A GOOD HUMAN. AND NOT AT ALL A BAD PERSON, except for what we have stated above.
Please guide.
JAZAKALLAH
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Answer:- The best Du'a and Amaal I can advise is repeating Estighfaar, Salawaat and
La Hawla Wala Qowwata Illa Billah Al Aliyy Al Adheem, as many times as
possible.(At least 100 times each every day or after every Salah).
It is very good to talk to him politely about these matters, so that he may
re consider. Wife also should not think that she is error-free and should
do her best to improve herself as a good wife.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi
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