Question ID 1620 - 2014-07-05 20:51:05
Question:
Dear Sayyid, I married a momina girl without taking any dowry and I am on a very good post.I am Indian. I was getting very large amount of money in dowry from many different people who were rich and willing to marry their daughters to me. My parents were also desperate to marry me with any such girl who is having a rich father. But I married a girl from educated sayyid family who is middle class and my wife is well educated and prays 5 times a day and fasts in ramazan. I am happy with my wife and now in last 6 years of my marriage , I got 2 sons also. My parents still mentally torture me on differnt occasions and scolds me that I ruined and destroyed their plans and we could have become rich by taking dowry or by marrying a girl of some influential person's daughter. I feel very bad and sometimes I quarrel with them and feels very bad as I know that its a great sin to say anything to your old parents. But I am unable to control my anger at times and say some bad words to them. I dont know , what should I do? Please advice me, I married with my wife against the will of my parents and they were not there at the time of my marriage. Should I divorce my wife? what do you Advice to my parents? Thanks.
Answer:
Do not divorce your wife , and do not hurt her feelings.
You must tolerate your parents even if they do injustice to you. Never
speak any word which can hurt them. Always be very polite when you talk to
them or respond to their wrong opinion. Allah will never bechappybwith any
one who hurts his parents feelings.
Keep balance between your parents and your wife and maintain justice when
dealing with both sides, but be very polite with your parents, even when
they are wrong.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi
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Question ID 1612 - 2014-07-04 00:39:51
Question:
Asak I belong to a sadaat family from father side . But my mother is non sadaat. . Now wen i pay khums after giving imaam huq. And.rest of money where should i pay. . In my eyes there is no sadaat.but there are many relatives who deserve it from mother side. . In this case can i give half money to non sadaat. who are my relatives from motherside. .
Answer:
Half of the Khums is for needy Sadaat, and other half is the share of the
Imam (AS). You can not give from Sadaat share to any non Sayyed, but you
may seek permission from the Marje of Taqleed to pay part of the share of
Imam (AS) To your non Sadat poor relatives.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi
Question ID 1611 - 2014-07-03 23:41:24
Question:
A.O.A I run a small school. my husband dont pay khums but i give khums. What ever my husband hives me to spend and after expenses i save some money. .have i to pay khums on that money also. ..
Answer:
Yes. Khums is obligatory on every savings whether from your business or
gifts from husband or others.
Wassalam
Mohammadbal-Musawi
Question ID 1609 - 2014-07-03 22:08:33
Question:
Bismillah Hir Rahman Nir Rahim Salam Alaykum, Please tell me if a person was a Muqalid of Ayatullah Khoi and presently a Muqalid of Ayatullah Sistani, is he allowed to choose the lunar date as per Ayatullah Khoi rulings. Present year Muqalid of Ayatullah Khoyi is one day ahead of Ayatullah Sistani Only this year they can go with Ayatullah Khoi rulings or every year they have to follow the same. Also please inform me whether this is optional or compulsory to follow Ayatullah Khoi rulings if they were Muqalid before. I heard from Maulana that they have to follow Ayatullah Khoi rulings in such cases. Please explain me in details. Shukran Jazak Allah
Answer:
Muqallids of Ayatullah Khoei should remain on his Taqleed on matters that
they performed during his life.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi
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Question ID 1604 - 2014-07-02 22:30:15
Question:
salam syed ramzan kareem i have 2 questions 1- if i forget to do the niyyat in tasbeeh istekhara and then i remember and do the niyyat in middle of the tasbeeh, is the istekhara qabool? 2- one shia guy and girl love each other. But the guy has all the bad qualities in him and does major sins like drinking, zina and cheats on the shia girl with a kafir. So the girl does istekhara to marry him. But inspite of all the bad qualities, the istekhara comes good. So should the girl marry him? and any reason why the istekhara came good even if the guy is so bad?
Answer:
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> 1- if i forget to do the niyyat in tasbeeh istekhara and then i remember
> and do the niyyat in middle of the tasbeeh, is the istekhara qabool?
A1. Istikhara with out Niyyat, is invalid.
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> 2- one shia guy and girl love each other. But the guy has all the bad
> qualities in him and does major sins like drinking, zina and cheats on the
> shia girl with a kafir. So the girl does istekhara to marry him. But
> inspite of all the bad qualities, the istekhara comes good. So should the
> girl marry him? and any reason why the istekhara came good even if the guy
> is so bad?
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A2. Istikhara is only when you can not make your mind. There is no
Istikhara when the matter is clear. Marrying such bad person who commits
major sins is out of Istikhara, as it is very bad act and it can ruin the
life of this girl as well as her Akhirat. Such Istikhara might be invalid
right from beginning.
Wassalam
Mohammad al-Musawi